Time is a finite resource. Not some magical renewable wellspring that gushes forth like a geyser of productivity while you smile beatifically at yet another “quick call” that stretches into the void of eternity.
NOPE. It’s more like a precious, limited-batch artisanal bourbon that everyone wants to chug like it’s discount swill at a frat party.
And in 2025? Holy mother of bullshit, it’s worse.
The always-on economy has evolved into something altogether more ravenous.
A many-tentacled beast slithering through every notification portal of your device-saturated life. The corporate world you escaped?
It’s still there, watching you with its beady little eyes, waiting for you to flame out spectacularly so you come crawling back, broken and compliant.
You don’t want that. I don’t want that for you. So let’s talk boundaries.
Not everyone deserves access to you. Not everyone who can fog a mirror should be allowed into your calendar, your inbox, your sacred creative space. Some people are time-vampires as my boy Ben Settle mentions.
They’ll drain you dry while complaining that your blood lacks adequate iron content.
Why you need boundaries? (a partial list of sanity preservation)
Because burnout isn’t just some cutesy buzzword of the day. (I hate LinkedIn for that shit)
It’s your nervous system setting itself on fire while your brain watches, while it helplessly eats stale cheese crackers.
Because “exposure” and “opportunity” are often code for “we’d like to harvest your organs while paying you in compliments.”
Because saying yes to everything means saying no to what actually matters… Like making actual money, or remembering what your family’s faces look like, or basic hygiene.
Because 2025’s AI-enhanced workflow expectations have created a hellscape where people think you should respond to messages within microseconds. As if you’re some flesh-puppet server farm instead of a human with bladder functions and occasional thoughts.
You need barriers…
Big, beautiful, fuck-off barriers. Not walls (we’re not monsters here), but well-crafted gateways that filter out the time-wasters, the energy-suckers, the “let me pick your brain”-ers who come wielding tiny forks and napkins tucked into their collars.
Send those assholes a paypal.me link for $99 that sets them up with a zoom calendar call for your time. The ones who respect it will pay and the ones who don’t won’t pay.
(And yes, I know your therapist told you to be “open to opportunity” But did they specify that this should include letting every random LinkedIn connection control your afternoon for their pyramid scheme pitch? I THINK NOT.)
Here’s what your boundaries might look like…
Application processes. Intake forms. Scheduled office hours. Tiered access models. Clear-as-a-freshly-Windexed-window pricing structures that don’t apologise for valuing your expertise.
Email autoresponders that don’t sound like they were written by an anxious Victorian butler.
Your corporate days taught you that accessibility equals advancement. That’s… and I cannot emphasise this enough…
Grade-A-Complete bullshit.
A carefully curated lack of accessibility is the hallmark of the successful independent professional in 2025.
Remember when the pandemic taught us about capacity limits?
Apply that wisdom to your professional life. Your time is a cozy neighbourhood bar with limited seating, not a stadium concert with general admission. And you’re the bouncer, the bartender, AND the talent.
Think I’m being dramatic? Hyperbolic?
THE EXACT OPPOSITE.
I’ve watched brilliant friends become hollow-eyed zombies shuffling back to the equivalent of corporate America (Here across the pond) because they couldn’t say no. Couldn’t build the systems that protected their time and energy. Their creativity and independence were consumed by the insatiable hunger of “just one more client” and “it’ll only take a minute.”
Don’t be them. Be the magnificent boundary-setting unicorn you were meant to be.
Your future self. The one who isn’t answering emails at 3 AM while quietly weeping into a cold cup of coffee, will thank you.
Set the damn boundaries. Protect your time like it’s the last roll of toilet paper in the apocalypse. Because it’s 2025, and the only thing between you and burnout is your willingness to say “that sounds like a you problem” to demands that treat your schedule like public property.
Go forth and filter ruthlessly,
Stephen Walker
“The path of true learning is strewn with rocks, not roses. Anyone who insists on taking the easier way ends up in a fools paradise.” – Jed McKenna
No promises, today…
But I think I can conjure the energy to write this email, and make it worthwhile for both of us.
Let’s see how it goes.
If we fall short, my excuse is that I’m still settling in back home after one of the most intense weekend retreats I’ve ever run.
And, taking my first few steps up the mountain of a two-month personal retreat…
…Where I’ll be living in isolation, eating an extremely restricted diet, avoiding all physical contact, and most external stimulation.
It’s powerful and profound and boring and uncomfortable.
But I am experienced and ready and impossible to break.
So bring it the fxck on.
There we go, the energy is moving now…
…And now that it is, I think what I want to say is this:
To become a warrior, you need to go to war.
Why this is so hard to understand, I have no idea.
But it’s the clear and obvious truth that everyone seems to want to avoid.
We want strength without struggle.
Wisdom without scars.
Respect without worthiness.
The fruits without the labor.
We want to make money without doing the painstaking work of becoming valuable.
We want to discover our life purpose without making the harrowing journey to find it.
We want to find the perfect partner without needing to become one, ourselves.
Which is why, over and over again…
We fail to travel the distance between who we are and who we want to be, because we want to move forward without taking a step.
You cannot enjoy the view from the top of the mountain without making the climb.
And the climb is harder than you think it is.
But, as anyone who has made that climb will tell you:
That is exactly what makes it worth it.
There, I think we did it 🙂
Mission complete.
More tomorrow…
- T
P.S. Yesterday’s video pairs perfectly with today’s message:
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