One of my best friends nearly died a few days ago.
We were hanging out, having a couple of beers and planning a little holiday together to see some family we’ve not seen in forever.
That’s when it happened. He dropped to the floor clutching his chest and I’ve never a seen a guy as big has him drop that fast.
I managed to call an ambulance and do very basic CPR.
The thing is, he is tough as nails and will pull through and the really good news is, there’s no immense damage.
It’s a scary thing to happen and I’ve had my fair share of losses but what hit me harder was the fact that nobody else gave a shit.
Well, besides his mother who lives in Spain. His friends, brothers and sisters and close people he works with on a daily basis…
Not a single check in when he was missing in action after I made a few calls about what went down.
In the past we spoke about things like this. Mainly cause he is very much like me. He just cracks on with his work and projects and doesn’t bother with everyone because it’s gotten to that point in life, where when you’re always the one reaching out to do things or make plans, if you stop doing it. It all falls to the wayside and in the grand scheme of things, you don’t matter at all.
That’s an incredibly brutal realisation to have, especially as a guy.
You see all this “build a network” of supportive people who you can lean on when things get tough or whatever (Online especially. I mean those “guru’s” love a bit of that bullshit), yet when things do inevitably happen…
It’s just crickets.
Granted you’re lucky if you do have 5 people or less you can count on as a guy.
I was going to say that it brings me on to my next point, but my next point isn’t a politically correct point, so I’ll just leave it as is.
But I’ll leave you with this…
Seek out real friendships and relationships that are built on the quality time and interactions you spend with each other. You’ll soon notice that a lot of people just fade into the distance. They’re not bad people per se. They just have their own bullshit to deal with too. Don’t let anyone glamorise it, cause we’re all in the same boat. We’re all just wanting to live our lives as best as we can.
Do good work. Spend quality time with friends and family and realise that when you’re time comes, it just happens. You want to leave this spinning ball of a dirt a little better than when you first got here.
Stephen Walker.
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